It started off as a perfect day. I was on holiday with Bill (my hubby) in North Devon and the weather, especially for late September, was amazing. We had been walking around the Valley of the rocks admiring the scenery and dramatic coastline and then we enjoyed a full English breakfast in the café. We had planned to explore Woody Bay to find the natural tidal pool we had read about through the wild swimming website. We knew it was going to be quite a climb down to the bay but we needed to work off our full English breakfast so we were prepared for the long haul down and back.
It took us about an hour to reach the bay and it was worth all the hard work. We had it completely to ourselves and we found the tidal pool, hurray! We stripped down to our swimming stuff and jumped in. It felt amazing. We spent about two hours swimming and messing about on the beach before starting the climb back up to the car.
Marie came to me for EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) because she wanted to clear her fear of heights phobia. She was due to go on a skiing holiday and she was finding herself worrying about how she would cope with her fear. The anxiety she was experiencing was preventing her from looking forward to the holiday.
Her fear had built up slowly over the years and with this fear she had developed insecurities such as, “I don’t trust myself, I think I’m gonna jump.”
In the first EFT session we discussed her past experiences that may have contributed to her fear and she shared a few memories with me. Her earliest recollection of fearing heights was when she was five years old and she was in a tree house, and another when she was on the cliffs at Branscombe. Other memories included being on the stairs in Ikea.
Each phobic memory created phobic feelings which reinforced her belief that heights were dangerous, and she couldn’t trust herself. Her fear was so strong that she could feel her phobia just by talking about it. Even though we were sat in the safety of my treatment room, just talking about her phobia, she could connect to her fear. It was palpable and real and alive in that moment.
The mind cannot differentiate between a thought and reality so when you are focusing on an event in your mind, your mind thinks you are experiencing it for real.